A Course and Resource List
Below is a general list of resources for those interesting in serving men and boys and also the framework a taught course at the college level.
One of the goals of the course is to have the men understand the personal, historical, and social contexts in which they entered the masculine journey and to reframe their futures as men, husbands, and fathers.
14 Weeks, 3 hours per meeting, approximately 1800 pages of reading.
In my experience of teaching this course at several schools, the course is more transformative if it’s male-only which allows for greater authenticity and vulnerability. Because of the personal nature of the course, and issues of shame, a co-ed course will leave the male students emotionally on the defensive and they will would most engage in false masculinity postering which would undermine the goal of the experience. A co-ed course would likely need to be a lecture course.
The overall goal of the course is life-transformation.
These are not all Christian resources, so you’ll need to “eat the meat and spit out the bones.”
Books
Reading these books in this particular order is extremely important. The basic sequence is this: (1) how is manhood understood today, (2) how we got there, (3) how does all of this reading apply to your life as a man now and in the future, and (4) what can be done for men and boys in the future.
This works best if they are required to write something about the readings before you meet and reflect on them for the discussion.
(1) Season of Life: A Football Star, a Boy, a Journey to Manhood, by Jeffery Max
(2) The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do About It, by Warren Farrell & John Gray
(3) The Company He Keeps: A History of White College Fraternities, by Nicholas L. Syrett
(4) Muscular Christianity: Manhood and Sports in Protestant America, 1880-1920, by Clifford Putney
(5) Wildmen, Warriors, and Kings: Masculine Spirituality and the Bible, by Patrick M. Arnold (this book is only available used)
(6) Fathered by God: Learning What Your Dad Could Never Teach You, by John Eldredge
(7) Fathered by God: A Personal and Small Group Map for Your Masculine Journey, John Eldredge and Craig McConnell (photocopy)
Films
Extensive fraternity film analysis essays were written about each film.
Last Chance U
GOAT
Assignments
Weekly 3-4 page analysis of the readings, with two, well-framed interactive questions.
Two film Analyses
Workbook questions from the Fathered by God map.
Format
Seminar style and socratic. I led the first few weeks and then I turned the class over to the men and let them lead their peers in order to raise deep issues relevant to their experience and generation. I gave them instructions on how to lead a class. This would not work well as a lecture courses if the goal is life transformation. The course is specifically designed to fit with men’s learning styles.
Meals
Shared meal together, in class, and the beginning of each new book.
What I Would Include In The Future
Documentary: The Mask You Live In
Jordan Peterson and Warren Farrell discuss the necessity of fathers for the development of sons here on YouTube.
(8) Man Up: The Quest for Masculinity by Jeffrey Hemmer (this is, without question, the best masculinity book in print from a Christian perspective among the ones I’ve read of there years)
(9) Raising Boys In The Twenty-First Century by Steve Biddulp. The book stresses the importance of boys needing older mentors on high-school; youth ministry gets in the way of what boys actually need).
(10) Raising Boys By Design by Steve Gantz and Michael Gurian (this is an absolute must-read for all fathers)
(11) Losing the Good Portion: Why Men Are Alienated from Christianity, by Leon Podles
(12) Deep Secrets: Boys’ Friendships and the Crisis of Connection, by Niobe Way
(13) Saving Our Sons: A New Path for Raising Healthy and Resilient Boys, by Michael Gurian
(14) Neurosis and Human Growth: The Struggle Towards Self-Realization, by Karen Horney (“Or-nay”)
(15) When He's Married to Mom: How to Help Mother-Enmeshed Men Open Their Hearts to True Love and Commitment, by Ken Adams, PhD
(16) The Intentional Father: A Practical Guide to Raise Sons of Courage and Character (Includes Activities, Rites of Passage, and Steps for Parenting Boys, by Jon Tyson
(17) Adam’s Return: The Five Promises of Male Initiation, by Richard Rohr
(18) The Toxic War on Masculinity: How Christianity Reconciles the Sexes, by Nancy R. Pearcey
Other Books from Earlier Versions of the Course
These books provide the context for the larger discussion over the last 20 years or so. Some of these are better than others.
*Why Men Hate Going To Church, by David Murrow
*The Church Impotent: The Feminization of Christianity, by Leon J. Podles
*Crisis In Masculinity, by Leanne Payne
*Wild at Heart: Discovering the Secret of A Man’s Soul, John Eldredge
*Wild at Heart Field Manual: A Personal Guide to Discover the Secret of Your Masculine Soul, John Eldredge
*Fire in the Belly, Sam Keen
*The Silence of Adam, Larry Crab